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"Each of us must come to care about everyone else's children. We must recognize that the well being of our own children is intimately linked to the well being of all other people's children. After all, when one of our children needs life-saving surgery, someone else's child will perform it. When one of our children is harmed by violence, someone else's child will commit it. The good life for our own children can be secured only if it is also secured for all other people's children. But to work for the well being of all children is not just a practical matter-- it is also right!" - Lilian G. Katz, Phd.

Sunday, August 31, 2008

Geeky Parenting

Once upon a time I was a geek. I chatted on a Bulletin Board called the Granola Board. I played AD&D on a weekly basis with a great bunch of friends, many of whom I still have contact with. Computers, Gaming, Comic Books, SCA. Yep, Geek.

Now I have children going down the same path. Video games, Magic- The Gathering, Munchkin. You would think I would be happy about this, right? Intelligent children finding similar interests to their parents. I am torn, though. A lot of the activities were attractive because a lonely girl found people that accepted her for who she was. These were not exactly healthy relationships, although some were.

I worry. I encourage my children to develop their individuality, but at the same time I worry that they are too individual. Creativity is good. Numbing the mind with gaming, bad. Escapism has its place, but where is the line?

I cannot control my children. I can only guide them. I try to lead by example, but I worry about that example. I am a parent. I want my children to be happy, healthy, and independent. We have challenges to all three of those things already wired in our family. Is my children turning to the geek side inevitable?

Konal obsesses on things. I already see him going there with the Magic cards. How can I nurture this side of him while helping him maintain a balance?

I will not ultimately have control over this. I am fooling myself if I think I do now. I am facilitating and guiding my children. So why do I feel such pressure to "get it right?"

I guess I just have to trust my instincts.