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"Each of us must come to care about everyone else's children. We must recognize that the well being of our own children is intimately linked to the well being of all other people's children. After all, when one of our children needs life-saving surgery, someone else's child will perform it. When one of our children is harmed by violence, someone else's child will commit it. The good life for our own children can be secured only if it is also secured for all other people's children. But to work for the well being of all children is not just a practical matter-- it is also right!" - Lilian G. Katz, Phd.

Monday, March 24, 2008

I get comments...

Dear Anonymous Commenter from the University of Arizona,

I woke up this morning and got your comment and just looked at it. It was designed to hurt me, and I am trying to figure out the motivation for that. What have I done that has affronted your sensibilities?

I worked at 18 as well. I also worked at 29, until I almost lost my oldest son to the state because my income didn't let us qualify for the services he needed. That doesn't really matter in this country, though, does it? It doesn't matter what your circumstances are, you are supposed to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and carry on.

I honestly knew I did not need to respond to your comment. I could have left it or even deleted it, but it fascinates me. You called me pathetic, and yet, because you either did not know or did not care about the whole story, you end up looking like a heartless ass. If you don't like the fact that a 33 year old mother of 2 is living with her mother and not working, take it up with the Arizona Legislature. Let us be proactive and find a way that I can work and still get the essential services, such as in-home staff, that are not available on private insurance. I have talked to my representatives many times, but I am only one voice.

And meanwhile, I reserve the right to whine on my blog. It is my space, and while I know it makes me open to criticism, until you have lived my life, honestly, your criticism does not count. You came to me, on purpose, to read what I have to say. That makes the odds good that I know at least of you, since I rarely have random people go to Google sends people to

I don't feel sorry for myself. I have in the past, but have not found that to be useful. The post that you commented on comes from the shock of a sudden change of circumstances and trying to work through that. I have five more years until Konal is 18. I plan to use that time as productively as possible. I know what my options are, and will continue to explore them.

Meanwhile, look at yourself. What raised such a visceral reaction in you? Do you feel that I am getting something you don't get? Am I cheating? Is there an issue with fairness of life? What was the thought behind leaving a comment designed to hurt on the blog of someone who expressed that they were already hurting?

Let us dialogue, because understanding others leads us to understanding ourselves.