So, I started out planning to write about this weekend, and so I shall. But I realized that I had never actually written out the story of Chris and I, and it is a wonderful story. It is a story of almost losing someone and finding them again. Chris will need to correct any factual errors- I have a very poor long term memory.
In 2003, I was at loose ends. I had a couple of long term relationships post divorce, and they had ended amicably. I was learning what I wanted for myself and my family, and learning a fine discernment that I had lacked in previous relationships. In other words, I was learning not to marry guys just because they liked me. I had gone directly from a very bad, young, first marriage directly into a long-term relationship, eventually marriage, with the boys' father.
I needed to learn how to date, and to that end I put out an online personals ad. I used the then TechTV service with the idea that I wanted to find a geek. As my friend Cinder put it, I would never be happy with a normal guy. Little did I realize that the service was actually through Springstreet, and it put me with many people from diverse backgrounds. I found a couple of interesting profiles of guys that could string two or more words together coherently. I found it intriguing that so many guys couldn't and even worse, would often dismiss reading as something that was n0t interesting.
Soon I had a couple of dates lined up and was on the road to learning to date again. It wasn't easy. I found that I was dating 4 gentlemen at the same time at one point. One of the gentlemen was a very quiet lad named Chris. He didn't have a cell phone, lived with roommates and was just, well, quiet. We had a few dates, with the initial one being a game night at Cinder's house. Cinder thought he was too vanilla for me, and after a couple of dates I came to that conclusion as well.
Friends through work set me up on a blind date with a wonderful gentleman. We decided to make a go of it, and I had to do something really, really hard for me. I had to let the others, including that nice young man Chris, know that I was no longer interested. I think I did a good job, but Chris may have other ideas about that (rejection is never easy).
Meanwhile, I frequently took newer dates to go see the Clarevoyants at one of the pubs. The 'Voyants are no longer together, but for a while they were the hot pub band in Phoenix, and had a loyal following. I always had friends in the room, so it made it a safe venue for internet dating.
Chris apparently liked them, because one night at a show, I saw him lurking in the back of the room. I went up and said hi, then dragged him back to the pub crowd and introduced him to everyone. Because of my hectic life, I did not make it out very often. Chris did, though, and rapidly became a regular.
So, life continued. I still dated a bit here and there. I eventually quit my job and became a full-time mom and student (long story there). Then came my birthday- 2005.
To be continued....
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