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"Each of us must come to care about everyone else's children. We must recognize that the well being of our own children is intimately linked to the well being of all other people's children. After all, when one of our children needs life-saving surgery, someone else's child will perform it. When one of our children is harmed by violence, someone else's child will commit it. The good life for our own children can be secured only if it is also secured for all other people's children. But to work for the well being of all children is not just a practical matter-- it is also right!" - Lilian G. Katz, Phd.

Monday, January 9, 2006

And yet another personal post

Boy, aren't you lucky this week!

First:
Not that I think particularly many people read this mish-mash of heartbreak, whining, political thought and useless memes and quizzes. But, hey, it's my blog and I will do what I want.
I am having an interesting week, and am sitting here trying to figure out how much of it is menstrual hormone reaction and how much of it is justified, righteous frustration and anger.
So, apparently, the staff in my house who are supposed to keep us all safe and my child from having to enter a residential treatment facility are no longer allowed to put him in a hold for "just" property destruction.
This is a big deal, although I understand the logic behind it. They want to minimize therapeutic holds and save them as a last resort. I am looking at my $6,000 Lowe's credit card bill and the fact that the chaos that leads to property destruction leads to significant safety issues.
Tonight was an excellent example. She never did use a therapeutic hold on him, and I now have more holes in the walls, my other son, mom, and dog were locked in Mom's bedroom, further disrupting the family. I have bruises on my back from him pounding on me because I removed two brooms and a hammer from his range. Basically, she did nothing I couldn't have done myself- more decisively and swiftly. I can NOT have wishy- washy people in the house when there is a crisis, because it intensifies the crisis. I actually have the opinion that female staff are a bad idea when Konal is having a hard time. He doesn't respond to females nearly as well as males. Our old supervisor, K, used to describe the technique needed as being a compassionate drill sergeant. Quickly, decisively and firmly taking control of the situation, and not letting the chaos reign. Breaking the cycle.I may be wrong, and after I cool down, I plan on discussing it with the new Supervisor, J. I just hate it when things look the same with staff here as when they are not.
Then there is school. Not mine, although I have a to do list for this semester a mile long. Konal, and his failing fifth Grade year, unacknowledged dysgraphia, and peer issues. My child is brilliant (not just my biased opinion, but through testing) and they are letting his mind go to waste because he is "unmotivated". Grrrrrrrrr..... It is hard for me to believe that there is much to motivate a child who has been doing poorly in school since Kindergarten.
I hurt so much for him. I want to homeschool him, and am actively investigating it, but I am scared to actually try it. How can I balance my college, some kind of money making activity, schooling him, and doing the intense case management and behavioral management I already do? I am an idiot. I guess I should go to bed now- I have to be up at 6 to get the childlings to school.Aidan has his appt with the retinal specialist tomorrow and Blizzard has a 2:15 appt at the Vet. I think she pulled a muscle in her leg again. I work, and S. is coming back after breaking his hand. Finally, a male staff again!